Want To Be A High-Achieving #Bossmom? Find A Tribe.
I have never, at any point in my life taken 100% credit for my accomplishments.
I am a product of two parents who love me, a husband who supports everything I do and a son who inspires me to become a better version of myself everyday.
Throughout my entrepreneurial journey, my mother, my husband and my son have been unwavering beacons of support and love during every phase of my growth. All three have been there for me to provide support when things are hard and clink wine glasses (and juice boxes) when things are good. Through having this amazing little tribe, I've learned two important lessons:
1.) Having a tribe makes life so much more enjoyable during the good times and much more tolerable during the bad and
2.) Having a tribe holds you accountable to your goals
Life is just better when we share it with people we love and we're more likely to accomplish our goals when we have people we love holding us accountable for our actions. We #ThriveWithATribe and that's a very good thing mama because it will make your journey to becoming a #bossmom that much more enjoyable.
Last night, I participated in another business panel here in Denver and although my husband, my mother and my 4-year-old did not have to come, they did. The three of them were sitting in the audience supporting me with their presence and their applause.
Mama, I cannot stress enough the importance of finding and nurturing a tribe. Your tribe can be as big or small as you want it to be and it can be whomever you need it to be! Boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, best friend, mentor, teacher, coach, online community, brother, mother, sister father, child...anyone!
Finding a community that loves and supports you throughout your journey to becoming a #bossmom is absolutely paramount to your success. It will make your adventure that much more fun, memorable and amazing!
I want to leave you today with 3 Tribe Rules to follow to help you create a loving community of support and on-going growth for your #bossmom journey. Finding a loyal tribe will end up being one of the best things you'll ever do for your career. I promise you.
Tribe Rule #1
Pick someone who inspires you
Pick someone who has a high vibration, and by this I mean pick someone who is positive, upbeat, and has a genuine aura of happiness and good vibes. Basically pick a role model. Pick a personal hero or guru that you admire and aspire to be like. For me, that person is my son. Since his birth 4 years ago, Liam has taught me invaluable lessons about life, love and myself. The person I am today is no where near the person I was before I had my son. His beautiful heart, his spunky charisma, his fierce intelligence and his amazing compassion have molded me in ways I thought I could never bend. Liam inspires me to in a constant state of personal growth and his life, inspires mine.
Tribe Rule #2
Pick someone who is better than you
Pick someone who complements your strengths and helps you develop your weaknesses. For me, that person is my husband. I'll give you an example: One of my weaknesses (that I am actively working on) is that I tend to be quick to anger and slow to forgive. It's one of my crappiest weaknesses and I hate to admit it, but it's true. My husband however is totally the opposite. He is slow to anger and quick to forgive. Throughout our entire relationship he has been helping me with this weakness and coaching me on ways to overcome it. On the other end, one of my strengths that my husband complements is my ability to relate to others.
I love people. Like, I really genuinely love people.
My husband is a restaurant manager by trade and he’s an excellent coach and a powerful leader. We’ve recently decided to join forces and become business partners because his strong people skills complement mine and vice versa. Picking a tribe member who complements your strengths and coaches you through your weaknesses is like upgrading your car from a Honda to a Ferrari. It will simply help you get to where you want to be that much faster.
Tribe Rule #3
Pick someone who is in a state of constant personal growth
If you're not growing, you're not living. We are not here (like, on this planet) to be mediocre. We are here to THRIVE not just survive. If you are not in a state of constant personal growth, then you need to find someone who is. One of the people in my life who has undergone tremendous amounts of personal growth (and has no plan on stopping) is my mom. I am so, so proud of my her and everything that she’s accomplished since my father's passing almost 5 years ago. My mother went from being a housewife of 22 years to suddenly having to manage my father’s estate and make massive financial decisions all on her own over night. But she figured it out. She stood her ground like a warrior, and sought help where she needed it. Now my mom is working on getting her license to become a certified financial planner—something she would have never, ever in a million years done on her own had she not been through so much adversity. Surround yourself with people who are in a state of constant personal growth because odds are, if they are growing, you are growing too.
Mama, remember you are not in this by yourself. In fact, you shouldn’t be!
Any journey that’s worthwhile will require a strong support system.
And that’s exactly why I’m here.
I built the #bossmom community for you mama!
And if it’s cool with you, I would be honored to be a part of your tribe ;)
Besos Bella Mama